The Minimalist Mum

It’s been a while since my initial post and my oh my has it been a whirlwind since then!

I gave birth to my beautiful Son at the start of September and I’ve been trying my hardest to remain afloat since that moment. My hospital journey is something that I plan to write about in another blog post as it was *traumatic* (for myself, my boyfriend and our child) and seems like it should have its own space on the page.

In the past 6/7 months, my life has completely changed. I wouldn’t even say that it’s flipped upside down..it’s just all jumbled together. The postpartum anxiety is very real and something that I’m struggling with on the day-to-day. The postpartum hair loss is CRAZY (I’m not sure how I have any hair left) and the recovery is slow. But we’re getting there and that’s all that matters.

Everyone’s PP journey is completely different but we really are all in this together (iykyk) to uplift and support each other always and especially on those days when we really need it.

My DM’s/messages/inbox are always open to anyone needing some help or friendly ear.

*DISCLAIMER – This blog/blog post is about my own personal experience ad is not here to dampen the journey of other women but to uplift them and experience it together*

So, I’m not going to lie, I’ve had a very easy pregnancy (luckily) which is not the case for a lot of women unfortunately. I feel very blessed and lucky to have had a straight forward first pregnancy.

However, my mental health has taken a critical hit throughout the last 7 months. I’m not one to take time off of work unless it’s for a very valid reason but I was written off of work for 2 weeks due to stress as I couldn’t fathom all the things that were happening in my life along side the stress of retail. I’ve always had slight anxiety about life in general and I am a chronic over thinker which is a big hinderance when it comes to anything, whether it be relationships, friendships, work or anything else. With my over-thinking, it’s made me feel incredibly lonely over the last 7 months (that I’ve known being pregnant). Whenever my other half is out for the evening, I get over-whelmed with loneliness that drives me to tears and panic attacks. When you’re on Maternity Leave and everyone is still working, it’s very easy to feel left behind and forgotten about but that is not the case. Not feeling as if there is anyone for you can send you into a spiral of sadness which is unfortunately has happened to me a handful of times. Something that comes along side this feeling is that many people ‘forget’ about you when it comes to going to the pub or for lunch since you can’t drink anymore. Ive noticed a lot of women becoming more distant with once close friends because they can no longer drink. If this is the case, they were never really close friends and also remember that you were obviously the life of the party.

Just wanting someone to talk too can feel so intimidating but if anyone is reading this, just know there is always someone that wants to hear you and listen and be there for you at all times. Whether it’s your other half, your family or a stranger.

The Change …

Loneliness and Anxiety in pregnancy …